Because strong women aren’t afraid to be alone, they don’t need to date in order to be genuinely happy and at peace in life. This sounds simple and easy enough, but it really is a rare characteristic; in fact, it might have more to do with true freedom than any other single thing. When dating becomes selective rather than commonplace, it becomes more valuable and meaningful, and—ironically—time spent not dating becomes more valuable, meaningful, and fulfilling as well. Indeed, the benefits of independence and dignity really can’t be fully expressed in words alone.
Of course, it’s far easier to want to be a strong woman or to think about being a strong women than it is to actually be one. Strong women must be able to realize when someone’s attempting to deceive them, and to realize when someone might already be deceiving them in some way; they must be aware of what the people they’re interacting with say and do to other individuals aside from themselves, especially with regard to respect, kindness, and honesty.
Yet, actions must always speak louder than words, and words without accompanying actions should always fall deaf. It’s important to remember that you aren’t doing your partner any favours by staying in an unhealthy relationship and hoping that things—or your partner—will eventually change and improve. In the long run, all you’ll have done is delay the inevitable, and delay genuine happiness and peacefulness for both of you.
Or, as Buddha once said, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Why not spend as much of your own personal time and energy on something—or someone—that is capable of truly reciprocating your unique love and spirit? Why not devote that time and energy to finding a worthy partner, or to finding greater happiness and peacefulness as an individual? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being open to dating but being entirely happy single; in fact, almost everything about this ideology or philosophy is right.
This is why strong women don’t waste time or energy on assholes—at least not after an asshole has been identified as one, and at least no more than is absolutely necessary (before indefinite separation). Strong women know that being alone is exponentially better than being part of an unhealthy relationship, and, more importantly, they also know that being alone has nothing to do with being lonely—at least not for a strong and free woman.
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