Life is hard and we all know that – however, we more than commonly make it even harder by complicating everything.
It can be extremely easy to perceive our issues to be more significant than others. We do this because we can only experience our own issues. We are surrounded by them all the time, 24/7. Because of this, our problems tend to absorb us completely. It is really easy to take the victim role and try to give up.
“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do or say is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz. The root issue and cause of our natural victimization are the egos. The ego tells you that you do not deserve this, and it isn’t fair that you’re having to deal with this conflict if others aren’t. But the reality is, we all have problems. It isn’t the problem that ranges in severity, it is how you perceive them.
As Steve Maraboli said, “How would your life be different if…Did you stop validating your victim mentality? Let today be the day…You shake off yourself defeating drama and embrace your innate ability to recover and achieve.” In order to come out of victim mentality, we are required to adopt two very important traits within ourselves that will help us first identify if we are playing the victim in a particular circumstance. “When you complain you make yourself the victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it, all else is madness.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
If you constantly dwell on your issues they start to take over. They are all you really think about and it is a miserable thing to experience. Instead of thinking about how bad your problems are and how unfair it is, try thinking about the lesson you may obtain from the conflict.
“Kindness is loving people more than they deserve.” ~ Joseph Joubert