Why So Many Women Don’t Have Orgasms


How to Experience Longer and More Mind-Blowing Orgasms

Shockingly, merely 25% of women normally orgasm during coitus. For her book The Case of the Female Orgasm, Elisabeth Lloyd scrutinized 33 studies over 80 years; 50% of women orgasm sometimes, 20% orgasm rarely, and 5% report never ever having experienced an orgasm. Clitoris or vaginal issues are to blame in some of these cases, but the vast majority of women have the ability to take matters into their own hands to ensure maximum pleasure and satisfaction. Please read the list below to give yourself or anyone else you know the best chance at achieving the big O.

#1: Sitting down all day.

This can shorten the pelvic muscles, which can cause pelvic pain and make orgasming extremely difficult. According to sex therapist Kat Van Kirk, “Some people may notice these issues after a few months of sitting too long, while it may take years for others to develop symptoms.” Take a short “break” after every thirty minutes of sitting and try to stretch the appropriate muscles to avoid these problems.

#2: Tighter isn’t always better.

It turns out that the tighter the vagina and the harder the penis, the less sensitive having sex will be. It’s imperative to relax and connect during coitus in order to enhance the senses, and oftentimes this can be achieved by allowing the penis to “plug” inside the vagina for an extended period of time. What’s more, this plugging technique is normally a mind-blowing experience for both partners.

#3: Wearing high heels.

D.O. of SoHo OBGYN Eden Fromberg advises that high heels deform the pelvic floor and the pelvis itself: “When your psoas muscles are sticky and tense due to prolonged high heel wear, they can’t transmit the arousal message necessary for orgasm.”

#4: High-foreplay.

It’s tempting to stimulate a woman’s negative pole by way of aggressive clitoral contact, but this actually causes the vagina to tighten and become positive (which is not ideal for female orgasms). This results in “friction sex” which prevents full-body orgasms, so it’s much better to stimulate the positive pole by caressing the breasts as desired.

#5: Too much alcohol and/or not enough water.

Dr. Fromberg argues that adequate hydration is essential for full orgasms: “The arousal tissue that extends into the connective tissue system is comprised of collage, elastin, and relaxin.” Tissue needs to be able to glide freely if a genuine orgasm is to be felt.

#6: Love needed.

Tantra teacher Barry Long argues that “Women are tired of being used as men’s sexual spittoons.” Tantric sex practices include non-ejaculatory sex to enable human beings to go beyond the inherent procreative ideology. This technique allows people to be truly intimate simply by connecting mentally and emotionally, and this enhances the physical experience much more once it is fully thrown back into the mix.

#7: Lack of noise during coitus.

Author of Screwing the Rules, Laurel House, reveals that being loud during sex allows “you to orgasm longer, harder, and more often. Take in the feeling of skin on skin, enjoy the pressure and weight of [a] body pressing down on yours.” 

#8: Lack of masturbation.

Dr. Van Kirk has found that “Orgasm breeds orgasm.” Fantasizing and imagining while masturbating makes it far easier to orgasm during conventional sex—so be sure to get creative at least three times each and every week.





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