It goes without saying that most children will have at least one public screaming tantrum before they reach adolescence, and they often seem to happen in the worst places at the worst times. Parks, restaurants, and malls are all common and painstaking locations for these bouts to occur in, and the younger the child or toddler, the more irritating the experience can be.

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Justin Baldoni is a well-known actor on Jane The Virgin, and he was forced to endure one of his daughter’s tantrums while shopping. However, he recalled the advice of his father and shared a message on Facebook to ensure a potentially negative experience ended up being a largely positive one. Justin and his father can be seen observing Maiya laying on the floor crying, but they insist on remaining calm and cool despite the apparently stressful situation.

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In Whole Foods, Justin followed his father’s example of allowing his child to feel what she needed to feel without interfering. Indeed, telling your child that they are embarrassing or disappointing will never help the situation, and it will usually make it far worse. And, in truth, no parent should be or feel embarrassed for themselves or their child under these circumstances: it surely will not be the last time they feel that way in life, and many times human beings are right to feel distraught or wronged.

In the modern world, even adults would do well to have more patience and tolerance with themselves. In fact, a warranted tantrum or cry every once in a while can be just what is needed for long-term happiness, peacefulness, and optimum success. #fathersday#redifinemasculinity #daddy #dearmaiya

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Justin argues that children are learning to absorb everything in the world around them all at once, and sometimes an outburst or overflow of emotions is both inevitable and necessary. In order to deal with a child’s tantrum in a more positive and productive fashion, please consider the info and insights below.

#1: Maintain patience.

According to Dr. Swanson, “When an attention span isn’t increasing over time, it’s worth checking in.” A behavioral issue such as ADHD may be to blame, or you may even be referred to a developmental pediatrician or psychologist. However, practicing greater patience in general could very well enable your child to release their pent-up emotions in a reasonable amount of time.

#2: Allow fidgeting.

Sometimes boredom may be the culprit. As per child psychotherapist Fran Walfish, Psy.D., and author of The Self-Aware Parent, “A preschooler may be able to sit only for a few minutes at circle time, or longer if a story or song is engaging.” This same logic applies to everyday life, and if a child happens to be a natural multi-tasker, then allowing them to keep their hands and mind busy could be both beneficial and necessary.

#3: Figure out feelings.

Dr Sal Severe, psychologist and author of How to Behave so your Preschooler Will Too, argues that different feelings and emotions require different methods of coping and releasing: “They need to be taught how to label and manage those feelings, especially anger.” Try asking, “Did you feel angry?”, “Were you sad?”, “Did you feel frightened?”, etc.

#4: Learn and teach empathy.

Virtually all human beings could do more when it comes to being aware of how their thoughts, words, and actions influence other people, and when it comes to being aware of how other people are impacted by other people and things in the world at large. Ask and remind your children—and yourself—to see things from the perspectives of other people on a regular basis. 

#5: Seek-out solutions.

Role-playing is often an effective didactic method when it comes to children, especially when it comes to avoiding conflict (physical conflict in particular). However, teaching your children how to think their way through difficult or stressful situations in general could be even more important.

 

 

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