Why Depressed People Get Lividly Angry (and How You Should Handle Them)

It can be difficult for people who have never been depressed to truly understand what it really feels like to be depressed. However, it’s safe to say that it involves feeling like bad things are constantly happening, and it frequently entails losing self-esteem, self-worth, and even sanity. This can often result in the feeling of rage, then numbness inside, and then the inability to genuinely feel any emotion unless it’s more painful than most. More specifically, the Cambridge dictionary defines “depression” as being “a mental illness in which a person is very unhappy and anxious for long periods and cannot have a normal life during these periods.”

Properly responding to depression.

Oftentimes depression will set in after trauma has been experienced, but this trauma can become internalized and result in anger, and angry actions. It’s important to keep this in mind, and to resist criticizing or judging someone who is depressed (because their actions may be direct results of a past experience). What’s more, people who are suffering from depression cannot simply snap-out of it in order to act normally or properly; they really do deserve a lot of leeway and unspoken forgiveness due to their state. Individuals who are depressed normally only recover once they can genuinely comprehend and accept the event(s) that caused their depression, and this normally requires an extensive amount of time and patience. Keep in mind that this type of anger is not aimed at you personally, and please continue to try to help someone suffering from depression as best you can.

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When human beings are depressed, it’s usual for them to feel extremely lonely and misunderstood (which, again, generates anger). Although it sounds like a cliché, it frequently helps to “just be there” for someone who is depressed, even if it doesn’t seem like you’re doing or saying anything that is productive. If and when the person suffering feels capable of sharing, having someone there to share their thoughts with can allow them to release some of what is causing them pain. Moreover, listening to music with someone who is depressed can be helpful if the music is soothing, and if you continue to connect while you listen.

Other things you can do to help are cooking favourite meals, paying for preferred takeout food, watching mutually-liked movies, or spending time with the person who is depressed doing whatever they’d like to do in general. Aside from experiencing depression yourself, spending time with someone who has depression and communicating with them will aid you in learning more about it, and in finding ways to be positive about it. Please checkout the video below for more specific and insightful information:

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Tartarkovsky M, M.S., “9 Best Ways to Support Someone with Depression.”


Farkas T., “Depression and Anger Can Go Hand in Hand.”

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